I’m a Soldier in the US Army, serving on what I hope
to be my last deployment in Southern Afghanistan. Being on deployment is tough; couple with
doing your job and the inherent dangers of war, you can understand my point. Deployments are also tough on the family as
well; with each member dealing with it in their own unique way.
For my wife and I this deployment is our fourth and I must admit has been the toughest for me.
I realized at about three to four months into it that I never want to be
separated from her like this again.
While deployed, I’ve read some very good books on
the subject of marriage; “His Needs, Her Needs” by Willard F. Harley, Jr. as
well as “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, both of which I highly
recommend. Currently I’m reading “Happy
Wives Club” by Fawn Weaver. Although the
title may suggest that it’s written for wives or women, I submit to you that
wisdom has no gender; I’m enjoying it; great information – great read.
How can two walk together unless they agree? The power of agreement is amazing; in an intimate
relationship such as husband and wife, it is a difference maker. There are two individuals, two view points,
two ways of reasoning, and both carrying the same amount of importance. Her interests, views, and way of thinking are just as important as
his. They have the distinct pleasure of
doing life together, so agreement is a must.
The mystery of marriage is a wonderful riddle of the
two becoming one. This is where the trust,
intimacy, and exclusivity comes in; the two will eventually have to become
vulnerable with each other – no mask, no filters, no pretense, just the real
individuals.
The sacredness and security
within the confines of this relationship is requisite for freedom of expression
knowing that emotional protection is afforded.
Loving consideration is putting the other person’s needs and comfort
before your own; love gives – not receives.
The mutual benefits of such a relationship not only benefit the couple,
but also the home, the community, and yes I believe our nation as well. Make and allow your marriage to be a light
and a beacon of hope for all to see.
This has been your 80 seconds of encouragement.
Tims2Centz
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